How To Know If Someone Truly Loves You

How would you know if the person sitting beside you, whose hands you hold most of the time, truly loved you? Most people have to settle, even when they're in love with someone. Sure, there are some relationship problems but ideally, love is perfect and without flaws.

The best thing you can do is to ask yourself: does this person make me feel safe, respected, and understood? Do they listen to me? Do they acknowledge my feelings and experiences? Do they show up for me when I need them? Do they know how I take my coffee, what my favorite color is, or what makes me feel good when I'm sick?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, there's a good chance your partner loves you. If not, it might be time to have a conversation about where things are headed.

1. They do things for you out of love, not of obligation.

It can be hard to tell if someone loves you or if they’re just being kind. The line between the two can be blurry.

But there’s a way to know what someone’s intentions are. A way to know if they truly love you and are doing things for you out of love, not an obligation.

They don't feel like they have to because they care about you. They want to because they want to see you happy.

So the next time your boyfriend helps with laundry or your girlfriend brings you a bowl of soup when you're sick, pay attention to whether they seem genuinely happy to help or if they seem burdened by it.

If they are happy, you've got yourself a keeper!

 2. If someone loves you they will come across as caring, supportive, understanding, and non-judgmental.

If someone truly loves you, they will come across as caring, supportive, understanding, and non-judgmental. Every action they take will be done out of love for you and not for their own satisfaction or obligation.

They will also like to spend time with you as well as listen to what you have to say. They will make an effort to communicate with you when they can and want to hear about what is going on in your life.

It is important that you also reciprocate in showing your love for them. If someone really cares about you, they will show it in many ways through their actions and words.

You may notice that the way they treat others changes after spending time together. They may seem more loving towards others because their love for you has deeply affected their heart.

3. They comfort you when you're sad, and share in your happiness when you're happy because they see themselves as a part of your life.

We're all striving for the same thing: a deep and abiding connection with another human being.

But how do you know if someone truly loves you?

It's easy to say "I love you" and mean it, but it's much harder to show that love in a way that is consistent and true.

Here are 3 ways to tell if someone really cares about you:

• They comfort you when you're sad: They don't need to know what's wrong or why it's affecting you—they just want you to feel like your best self again as soon as possible. When they see you're down, they'll be there with a hug and a smile.

• They share in your happiness when you're happy because they see themselves as a part of your life: You can't always be there for the people you care about, but real friends and loved ones will always include you in the moments that matter most.

• They make an effort to get to know who you are: It's not about what they want from the relationship; it's about what you want from it. Your loved one should prioritize finding out what makes you tick because everyone deserves someone who knows them inside and out!

4. They accept your flaws and weirdness.

You have a lot of great qualities, and you're a really amazing person. But you also have some weird habits, some little flaws (like we all do), and maybe even some weird quirks that not everyone gets.

So, how can you tell if someone loves you? If they accept your flaws and weirdness, that's how.

It's easy to love someone who is perfect and awesome all the time. It's not so easy to love someone when they are having a bad day or saying something dumb or just being their true self—the one with the quirks and flaws we all have. 

A good relationship involves accepting the other person fully, not just when they are being their best selves. If someone loves you, then they will accept your flaws and weirdness as part of what makes you a wonderful person—and an important part of their life!

5. They talk about you to their friends.

If you've ever wondered how to tell if someone truly loves you, here's the answer: They talk about you to their friends.

You can't stop a person who's really, deeply in love with you from bringing you up to their friends. They'll mention funny things you do. They'll tell a story about something you did or said that made them laugh. They'll say that your voice is the best sound in the world.

They will not be able to shut up about you when they're around their closest confidantes. It doesn't matter what else is happening in their life: If they have a crush on you and they're talking to their friends, your name is coming up 100% of the time.

If you think someone may love you but they just aren't vocalizing it, try having a conversation with them while they're hanging out with their friends—and listen carefully for any mention of your name. If it comes up more than once… well, we've got some good news for ya!

6. They encourage you to be yourself — and not just a version of them or the person they want you to be.

How do you know if someone truly loves you?

It's not just about what they say to you (or about you). It's also about what they're doing for you.

One of the biggest signs is when they encourage you to be yourself — and not just a version of them or the person they want you to be. You might notice that your partner does things like:

Support your goals and dreams by asking questions that help you figure out how to achieve them.

Assisting in practical ways — like by picking up the car from the repair shop.

Offering words of encouragement when it seems like nothing is going right.

If they love you, they'll want to see you succeed. They'll want to help take some of the burdens off your shoulders. They'll want to give back — even if it's just in small ways — because it makes them happy to make you happy.

7. They want to understand your feelings, even if they don't necessarily agree with them.

 It can be hard to tell what someone's intentions are when they're dating you. How do you know if this person is really in love with you, if they just want something from you, or if they're just using you?

When the people around us are feeling down, we tend to listen with our own feelings in mind instead of theirs. For example, let's say someone's having a bad day at work and tells us about it. If we're in a bad mood too, we might get annoyed and think that their problems are petty and not worth thinking about—or even worse, that their problems aren't as important as our own. We might even use their problems to distract ourselves from our own.

Not so for people who truly love you. They want to understand your feelings, even if they don't necessarily agree with them. They want to hear whatever you have to say without judgment because they care about how you feel.

8. They do not compare you with anybody else.

It can be hard to tell whether someone truly loves you. It can be even harder to tell if they don't. Even the most loving people can hurt us by comparing us with others, and it's not always easy to predict how they'll respond in a given situation. But there are some traits that tend to indicate a deep love for you, and one of those is that they never compare you with anybody else.

There are a lot of reasons why someone might make comparisons with other people. They might be trying to make themselves feel better, or they might simply be unfair in their use of language. 

For example, if someone says something like "you're worse than my ex," what does that really mean? If I had been with them for years and it hadn't worked out, then that's probably a good enough reason for us not to work out—but does that mean I'm worse than their ex? 

Does it mean I'm bad at relationships? Or does it just mean that we have different needs and expectations? This kind of comparison doesn't seem very useful or fair!

On the other hand, comparisons can be helpful when they're used as a way of pointing out our flaws or weaknesses so we can work on them. If your girlfriend tells you that.

9. They miss you when they're apart from you.

This one is pretty simple, and it's also a great indicator of what kind of relationship you're in. If your partner misses you when you're apart from them, that means they value the time they get to spend with you. And if they value the time they get to spend with you, that means they think your time together is important.

Because when it comes down to it, if someone really loved you, that would mean that the time they got to spend with you would be some of their favorite moments of the day. They would cherish those moments and wish they had more of them all the time. And when someone has a desire for something, whether it's physical or not, that means they value it—and this is true even if we don't realize it!

So if your significant other misses you every now and then? That's a pretty good sign that things are going well for you two!

10. They apologize and make amends.

In a relationship, it can be hard to know if your partner truly loves you. When people love each other, they do certain things that show it. They say "I'm sorry" and work to make amends when they've hurt you. They want what's best for you and try to avoid doing things that are inconsiderate or hurtful to you. They also do things to show their love without even realizing it, like trying to make your day easier or taking care of the little details for you.

When someone loves us, it's normal for both of us to get upset sometimes. The important part is understanding why we're upset and working through the problem together in a way that makes everyone feel good again. That's what people who love each other do.

11. They show up for you when it matters.

So, how do you know if someone truly loves you? Sure, people can say the words, but anyone can say anything. It's what they do that tells you how they feel.

And here's one thing to keep in mind: people show up for the things that matter to them. They don't show up for the things that don't.

So if someone who loves you is going to show up for you, it's going to be when it matters. They don't have to show up every time something happens (because some things just aren't that important). But if you're important to them, and your happiness or wellbeing is at stake, they'll be there.

This doesn't mean they'll never flake out—no one is perfect—but it means they'll generally make an effort not to let you down when it counts. And if they do flake out once in a while, they'll step up later on and make it right, because they want to prove that their love for you is real.

In conclusion, I believe it is possible to tell whether someone truly loves you, but it can be really difficult sometimes. The best advice I can give is to love yourself because that is what will make relationships work. People should never have to buy your affection. You should be able to feel it, and happiness should not be dependent on someone else's approval.